Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

I've been debating with myself on what to say and to whom, but since it is affecting so much of my time, and since I'm very visible in the .NET community, I've decided to publish it to the world.  So here goes:

My wife, Jenny, was diagnosed with breast cancer a week ago.  This was not a huge surprise out of nowhere, since we've long known that our infertility was due to something called Poly-Cystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS).  This causes all sorts of fibrotic tissue (lumps) in the breasts, and she's already had several biopsies over the years, so it was just a matter of time for the most part.  She's had her first chemo treatment this week on Monday, and will be repeating chemo every 2 weeks for the next 16 weeks or so, after which time we'll need to regroup and consider her surgery options.  If anything, she's looking forward to getting firm perky breasts in 6 months, so other than being tired, and obviously a little depressed at times, she's doing well and should have a good outcome -- it just takes time.

Anyhow, since I work from home for my current client, this hopefully won't be too difficult, but it may mean that I will not get to some of my personal projects very quickly.  In particular, I will be putting out a small update to my ORMapper soon, a few new features and a few small bug fixes, but I no longer know how much time I will end up getting to finish my UIMapper and other future personal projects.  I may end up just throwing what I have for my UIMapper out there as is, or with very few additional changes, since it does work already (I've used it in production for some time now), even though it may lack a few things I wanted to add first.  So please know that while I'm still working, I may be slower to answer email or post things, or to get all the things done that I want to do.
Published Thursday, December 23, 2004 4:57 PM by PaulWilson

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# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

God bless man, hope she is doing better real soon. My Mother in law is a survivor, I know it can be tough...Good luck.

Thursday, December 23, 2004 5:11 PM by M. Keith Warren

# Best Wishes to Jenny

Thursday, December 23, 2004 5:52 PM by TrackBack

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Livestrong!

Thursday, December 23, 2004 6:10 PM by Travis

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Best Wishes to your wife Paul.

Thursday, December 23, 2004 6:50 PM by Michael Chean

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

I am praying for you and your wife. Please keep us posted. God bless.

Thursday, December 23, 2004 8:29 PM by David Neal

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

-Jerry

Thursday, December 23, 2004 9:28 PM by Jerry Dennany

# [OT] : Best Wishes for Jenny and Paul

Friday, December 24, 2004 12:14 AM by TrackBack

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Best wishes to the both of you during the next couple of months. We'll be thinking of you and keeping you in our thoughts.

Friday, December 24, 2004 1:28 AM by scottgu@microsoft.com

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Of course I have no words, but to say good luck to you and your wife.

Friday, December 24, 2004 4:00 AM by Dennis v/d Stelt

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

I'm not a native English speaker so I used the dictionary to translate: "Veel sterkte" (what we say to people in situations you're in now) and it said: "All the best", so I hope that's a correct translation. I hope your wife recovers soon and she overcomes this horrible decease. Chemo is horrible, but at least it gives some hope on recovery.

Friday, December 24, 2004 5:10 AM by Frans Bouma

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The best of luck to the both of you.

Friday, December 24, 2004 11:27 AM by Michael Hensen

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Paul and the rest of Nata1 says, long live Wilson Mapper!

We need this in a big way, anything I can do to keep this mapper strong. Nata1 loves wilson and the mapper :)

Saturday, December 25, 2004 12:26 AM by Paul

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Paul,

I have an unfortunately large amount of experience with the sort of thing your wife is going through, being a 6 year liver cancer survivor, in addition to a number of other problems. Please know that lots of folks out in the blogsphere and elsewhere pulling not only for your wife, but also for you and the rest of the family. No disease effects just the person with the disease.

The best advice we ever got was this: This is not a sprint, it is a marathon. You need to have your head in the game for the long term, and take care of your loved one, and take care of yourself as well.

Be well, and let your wife know we are thinking of her...

Saturday, December 25, 2004 8:46 AM by Douglas Reilly

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Paul,

Stay positive and beat that nasty disease!

Good luck and we'll be praying for you.

Regards,

Alex

Monday, December 27, 2004 8:47 AM by Alex Lowe

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Best Wishes to your wife. Thank your ORMapper.

Monday, December 27, 2004 11:20 AM by ccBoy

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

My heart goes out to you and your family, Paul! I can't even begin to imagine.

Keep your head up, stay strong, and you guys will lick it.


Regards,
-Jason

Tuesday, December 28, 2004 11:26 AM by Jason Alexander

# [OT] : Best Wishes for Jenny and Paul

Tuesday, December 28, 2004 4:16 PM by TrackBack

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Best wishes to you & your wife.

Tuesday, December 28, 2004 4:40 PM by Ben Strackany

# RE: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Paul,

Best of luck with this. You and your wife will be in my prayers.

-Christopher

Wednesday, December 29, 2004 3:26 PM by Christopher

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Paul and Jenny,

I wish you all the best. May you beat it together. Stay strong - Kia kaha.

Wednesday, December 29, 2004 10:55 PM by Tim Haines

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

I'm sure you have read the theory and you know that probabilities are on your wifes side. Still you would be her most valuable doctor for the next years. My best wishes.

Thursday, December 30, 2004 1:32 AM by Nikos Delibaltadakis

# re: Personal Update -- Please Pardon My Inactivity

Paul, I really enjoy using your tools. For price and simplicity I am surely content with your mapping toolset. ...Work, busy work and material goals are temporary while faith, hope and love are eternal. As much as ORMapper vX.X etc has codies drooling clear your mind and help your wife through this difficult period with your focused time.

Tuesday, January 18, 2005 11:10 AM by seanh

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